perkahwinan berdasarkan seks or perkongsian

salam n afternoon..sempena hari jumaat yg mulia ni tah nape la topic blog aku agak luar biasa sket hehehe...i'm watching wanita hari ini for the segment tilam dan bantal and these are the issues they discussed about..for me its quite interesting as for me sbg seorg wanita kan..and for those out there yg still unmarried or dh married..

maybe to a certain ppl they've got their own point of view in marriage...but for me marriage it's about sharing,responsibilities,respect towards each other and love nonetheless to our partners..
mana mungkin sesuatu perkahwinan tu dibina hanya berdasarkan seks semata2..or perkongsian dua individu tetapi tak diiringi dgn seks pun juga tak mencapai apa yg dimaksudkan dgn the whole of marriage.tapi nowadays kita boleh tgk yg mostly a new couple yg lead to a marriage life mcm x tau pe objective or what they truly wants in it...ada yg nak kawin hanya nak menghalal kan yg haram or nak kawin coz parents dh membebel...or nak kawin coz sume org dah kawin(yg last ni aku calssify kan as a loser)...you dont just get married becoz everybody around you had been through it!adalah sgt cetek pemikiran insan2 sedemikian...pitty.

nak cari partner yg till death do us part tu bg aku la...hmmmm...adalah sgt2 mencabar dan bkn senang mcm kita fikirkan...(if not i've been a mummy now ok with bunch of kids in a row hehehe).nak cari keserasian utk berkongsi hidup dgn gender berlawanan memerlukan a lot of sacrifices and tolerance..give and take...x boleh fikir tentang diri sendiri and kena buang jauh2 the egoistic attitude in you.tp bila persefahaman tu dah dicapai,and u can feel it yourself (many ppl telling me bout this that u can feel it whether he's the one for u or not..honestly i've never felt that way until now..kottt... heheheh with any mens so far) that he's the one for u to spend the whole life together than only you'll proceed to the next level which is kahwin la of course..

mcm ade one of my ex-colleague Mrs A,she told me that after delivering her 1st baby the excitement to making love are not as excited as before the first time their married..coz her reasons are..."ko dah kawin sok ko tau la camne...penat dgn nak jaga anak,masak,kemas umah...then nk bgn pagi mandi sume..its just too hectic for me!" ok maybe she's right i'm not married yet but still la sebagai isteri dah mmg tanggungjawab ok utk memberi nafkah batin kepada suami if requested or else berdosa besar if kita menolak...then jgn la merungut bila suami cari lain in the end...mcm one of the panel in wanita hari ini (WHI) die explain...tak igt la nama ustaz tu...he said that sex tu adalah salah satu medium utama dlm perkahwinan coz die menggabungkan dua jiwa...which is kasih syg suami dan isteri...so cherish the moment dan amalkan sebagai konsisten dlm hidup berumahtangga..




ada satu statement ustaz ni that i'm totally agreed with...he said that as a wife u should groomed yourself la for your hubby...ni ada kat umh dgn berkain batik...baju klawar (wahahahah xleh blah yg ni)..rambut mengerbang..tapi bila nak keluar jln2 or shopping perfume semerbak dah blh bau..lipstick selagi tak makngah tak sah..so all that thing la we as a woman should bear in mind...
and of course not to mention for the guys as well...korg tak exception ok...coz if bini jaga badan tp suami memboroi kan perut di dpn tv pun tak guna gak..aku rase if pompuan ni dibolehkan kahwin 4...dah lama dah pompuan kat malaysia ni berpoligami..

for me..i always and always believe in the old fashion way that marriage will last forever..
x kira la mcm mane dugaan from the outsiders or whatever it takes..cuba sedaya upaya save the marriage and have the problems solved...when there's always a will there's a way right?

P/S:mintak la aku dijauhkan dari mempunyai taste memakai baju kelawar itu ya ampunnnnn...bg aku dr berkelawar baik ko berkemban je..sexy pun sexy gak..takyah nak unbutton ke apa ngehe..